Woman partially paralyzed after “love bite”
by Neharika Sabharwal - January 22, 2011
http://www.themedguru.com/20110122/newsfeature/woman-partially-paralyzed-after-love-bite-86143425.html
Who would have thought that kissing, biting, or sucking by an amorous partner around the neck would turn out to be dangerous.
In a rather bizarre incident, a 44-year-old Maori woman was rushed to the emergency department of Middlemore Hospital in Auckland with partial paralysis after receiving a “love bite” on her neck by an ardent lover.
A few days after the moment of passion, the woman experienced numbness in her left arm while she was watching television.
Stroke caused by love-bite
It was quite evident to the medics the woman had suffered a small stroke, but they were baffled as to what had caused the physical trauma.
The only injury was a fading hickey on the right side of the woman's neck. A thorough examination revealed that a major artery [a blood vessel that carries oxygenated blood away from the heart to the body.] had been damaged.
The doctors believe the woman’s lover had applied excess suction over her internal carotid artery while biting, which resulted in blood clot.
The clot in the artery later got dislodged and travelled to the woman's heart causing a minor stroke which in turn led to partial loss of movement.
Dr Teddy Whu, one of the doctors who treated the woman stated, “Because it was a love bite, there would be a lot of suction.”
He added,"To my knowledge, it's the first time someone has been hospitalised by a "hickey".
The incident which occurred last year has been reported in the latest issue of the 'New Zealand Medical Journal.'
MY THOUGHTS
click on the title to read the whole story, especially how the woman was treated.
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Happy Couples Fight
Happy Couples Fight
Don't Avoid Conflict
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com Guide
Every married couple will have disagreements. One of the keys to a successful relationship is knowing how to handle conflict. Avoiding conflict, walking on egg shells so to speak, being afraid of rocking the boat, or keeping peace at any price will hurt your marriage.
How to Handle Conflict in Your Marriage
Here are some ways to handle marital disputes and resolve differences:
* Make sure you clarify what it is you are discussing.
* If either of you are too angry to discuss the situation or problem, then set a time to get together later to discuss it.
* Be flexible and open to other solutions than your own. A willingness to compromise is important.
* Don't push one another's buttons. Don't be sarcastic or attack one another's self image.
* Don't interrupt one another. Listen. Be aware of your own body language and what it may be saying.
* Talk in a calm, respectful voice. Ranting and raving accomplishes nothing.
* Remember that a fair argument can enhance a marriage. Fight for your marriage, not to win.
MY THOUGHTS
"don't feel like your walking on eggs. if i need telling off tell me off. then we can have our fight. then make up and love again." - well, that's an excerpt from the poem - "please don't promise me forever". beautiful poem. beautiful thought.
Don't Avoid Conflict
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com Guide
Every married couple will have disagreements. One of the keys to a successful relationship is knowing how to handle conflict. Avoiding conflict, walking on egg shells so to speak, being afraid of rocking the boat, or keeping peace at any price will hurt your marriage.
How to Handle Conflict in Your Marriage
Here are some ways to handle marital disputes and resolve differences:
* Make sure you clarify what it is you are discussing.
* If either of you are too angry to discuss the situation or problem, then set a time to get together later to discuss it.
* Be flexible and open to other solutions than your own. A willingness to compromise is important.
* Don't push one another's buttons. Don't be sarcastic or attack one another's self image.
* Don't interrupt one another. Listen. Be aware of your own body language and what it may be saying.
* Talk in a calm, respectful voice. Ranting and raving accomplishes nothing.
* Remember that a fair argument can enhance a marriage. Fight for your marriage, not to win.
MY THOUGHTS
"don't feel like your walking on eggs. if i need telling off tell me off. then we can have our fight. then make up and love again." - well, that's an excerpt from the poem - "please don't promise me forever". beautiful poem. beautiful thought.
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Happiness in Marriage
Happiness in Marriage
Don't Depend on Marriage to Bring You Happiness
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com Guide
One of the myths about marriage is that marriage will make you happy. That's not true. Marriage alone cannot bring you happiness.
A Happy Marriage Comes From Within
Your happiness both as an individual and as a married partner must come from within yourself. Being married can add to your happiness, but it is not and can not be the primary source of your happiness.
"... getting married is not necessarily the key to achieving eternal bliss. Most people were no more satisfied with life after marriage than they were prior to marriage in a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology."
Source: Anne Becker. "Marriage Is Not the Key to Happiness." PsychologyToday.com. 3/18/2003.
A Few Strategies for Creating a Happier You and a Happy Marriage
* Like yourself.
* Be yourself.
* Be nice to one another.
* Show mutual respect.
* Be supportive of each other.
* Agree to have fair fights.
* Each evening, share with one another three happy things that you noticed during the day. Talk about why these moments of happiness occurred.
* Both of you write down how you want to be remembered. Talk with your spouse about how the way you are living your lives helps or takes away from what's important to you both.
* Make a list of things that make you happy such as a sunny day, a hot bath, a child's laugh. Create ways to include these happy times in your life more often.
* Do a random act of kindness not only for a stranger each day, but also for one another. Don't talk about these acts of kindness with one another. They are for your own personal self-esteem and growth.
* Fill your own emotional needs.
* Compliment and affirm your spouse.
Word of Caution
We are not saying that you can create a happy marriage when there is infidelity, abuse, lying, etc.
If you are in a dysfunctional marriage, please seek professional counseling so you can make an informed and rational decision as to whether or not your marriage is worth saving.
MY THOUGHTS
so, i hope you're not in a dysfunctional marriage. work on these tips, then. yes, work. some people think, saying "i do" is enough. real work comes after the vows. and more work is required when your wedding photos start to fade. when bulging tummies, double chins and sagging (i was going to say cheeks!) share that old creaky bed each night. it's so easy to fall out of love in the everyday mundane things of a married life. once you do, it's a lot harder to try and fall in love all over again. if you're married and you have not seen the movie fireproof, please do.
Don't Depend on Marriage to Bring You Happiness
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com Guide
One of the myths about marriage is that marriage will make you happy. That's not true. Marriage alone cannot bring you happiness.
A Happy Marriage Comes From Within
Your happiness both as an individual and as a married partner must come from within yourself. Being married can add to your happiness, but it is not and can not be the primary source of your happiness.
"... getting married is not necessarily the key to achieving eternal bliss. Most people were no more satisfied with life after marriage than they were prior to marriage in a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology."
Source: Anne Becker. "Marriage Is Not the Key to Happiness." PsychologyToday.com. 3/18/2003.
A Few Strategies for Creating a Happier You and a Happy Marriage
* Like yourself.
* Be yourself.
* Be nice to one another.
* Show mutual respect.
* Be supportive of each other.
* Agree to have fair fights.
* Each evening, share with one another three happy things that you noticed during the day. Talk about why these moments of happiness occurred.
* Both of you write down how you want to be remembered. Talk with your spouse about how the way you are living your lives helps or takes away from what's important to you both.
* Make a list of things that make you happy such as a sunny day, a hot bath, a child's laugh. Create ways to include these happy times in your life more often.
* Do a random act of kindness not only for a stranger each day, but also for one another. Don't talk about these acts of kindness with one another. They are for your own personal self-esteem and growth.
* Fill your own emotional needs.
* Compliment and affirm your spouse.
Word of Caution
We are not saying that you can create a happy marriage when there is infidelity, abuse, lying, etc.
If you are in a dysfunctional marriage, please seek professional counseling so you can make an informed and rational decision as to whether or not your marriage is worth saving.
MY THOUGHTS
so, i hope you're not in a dysfunctional marriage. work on these tips, then. yes, work. some people think, saying "i do" is enough. real work comes after the vows. and more work is required when your wedding photos start to fade. when bulging tummies, double chins and sagging (i was going to say cheeks!) share that old creaky bed each night. it's so easy to fall out of love in the everyday mundane things of a married life. once you do, it's a lot harder to try and fall in love all over again. if you're married and you have not seen the movie fireproof, please do.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Your Head and Your Heart
Your Head and Your Heart
Daily Inspiration
By John H. Sklare, Ed.D, Lifescript Personal Coach
Published January 03, 2011
When it comes to matters of love, are you the type of person who uses your head or your heart to qualify a mate? In other words, are you more analytical or instinctual? There are pros and cons to each, but the best way to evaluate the suitability of a mate is a combination of the two. A balance of head and heart provides the best information for important life decisions like this.
On the one hand, a strict analytical approach gives you the cold hard facts that you need, but it doesn’t take into account the wonderful intangibles that make your heart pound and knees shake. Conversely, the absence of any analytical input leaves you solely with your gut instincts. I find this often gets people into trouble. The heart has a natural tendency to ignore facts. For example, a woman sent me a message about her boyfriend’s sudden departure after a three-year relationship. She said that her friends and family warned her about him and that even she could see some signs (analytical head information), but she refused to believe them (emotional heart information).
If you're wrestling with a relationship issue today, give attention to both of these variables and consider them as you ponder your decision. Happiness in a relationship does not come from what you want… it comes from what you get!
Wishing You Great Health,
Dr. John H. Sklare
www.innerdiet.com
MY THOUGHTS
i know! it's too early for VDay. and this is nothing new. just consider this a reminder then. i was a "heart pound, knees shake person". i guess i still am. and it's so easy to tell someone to use her head and see the signs. that's hard to do when your head's in the clouds. even when the clouds are dark and sinister. just wait for that cloud to burst. maybe she'll learn after the storm. or maybe not. in any case, it's better to have... (blah!blah!blah!)
Daily Inspiration
By John H. Sklare, Ed.D, Lifescript Personal Coach
Published January 03, 2011
When it comes to matters of love, are you the type of person who uses your head or your heart to qualify a mate? In other words, are you more analytical or instinctual? There are pros and cons to each, but the best way to evaluate the suitability of a mate is a combination of the two. A balance of head and heart provides the best information for important life decisions like this.
On the one hand, a strict analytical approach gives you the cold hard facts that you need, but it doesn’t take into account the wonderful intangibles that make your heart pound and knees shake. Conversely, the absence of any analytical input leaves you solely with your gut instincts. I find this often gets people into trouble. The heart has a natural tendency to ignore facts. For example, a woman sent me a message about her boyfriend’s sudden departure after a three-year relationship. She said that her friends and family warned her about him and that even she could see some signs (analytical head information), but she refused to believe them (emotional heart information).
If you're wrestling with a relationship issue today, give attention to both of these variables and consider them as you ponder your decision. Happiness in a relationship does not come from what you want… it comes from what you get!
Wishing You Great Health,
Dr. John H. Sklare
www.innerdiet.com
MY THOUGHTS
i know! it's too early for VDay. and this is nothing new. just consider this a reminder then. i was a "heart pound, knees shake person". i guess i still am. and it's so easy to tell someone to use her head and see the signs. that's hard to do when your head's in the clouds. even when the clouds are dark and sinister. just wait for that cloud to burst. maybe she'll learn after the storm. or maybe not. in any case, it's better to have... (blah!blah!blah!)
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