Your Head and Your Heart

Your Head and Your Heart
Daily Inspiration
By John H. Sklare, Ed.D, Lifescript Personal Coach
Published January 03, 2011

When it comes to matters of love, are you the type of person who uses your head or your heart to qualify a mate? In other words, are you more analytical or instinctual? There are pros and cons to each, but the best way to evaluate the suitability of a mate is a combination of the two. A balance of head and heart provides the best information for important life decisions like this.

On the one hand, a strict analytical approach gives you the cold hard facts that you need, but it doesn’t take into account the wonderful intangibles that make your heart pound and knees shake. Conversely, the absence of any analytical input leaves you solely with your gut instincts. I find this often gets people into trouble. The heart has a natural tendency to ignore facts. For example, a woman sent me a message about her boyfriend’s sudden departure after a three-year relationship. She said that her friends and family warned her about him and that even she could see some signs (analytical head information), but she refused to believe them (emotional heart information).

If you're wrestling with a relationship issue today, give attention to both of these variables and consider them as you ponder your decision. Happiness in a relationship does not come from what you want… it comes from what you get!

Wishing You Great Health,
Dr. John H. Sklare
www.innerdiet.com

MY THOUGHTS

i know! it's too early for VDay. and this is nothing new. just consider this a reminder then. i was a "heart pound, knees shake person". i guess i still am. and it's so easy to tell someone to use her head and see the signs. that's hard to do when your head's in the clouds. even when the clouds are dark and sinister. just wait for that cloud to burst. maybe she'll learn after the storm. or maybe not. in any case, it's better to have... (blah!blah!blah!)