Dating Mistake #3 - BEING NEEDY

DATING MISTAKE # 3 - BEING NEEDY

Top 10 Dating Don’ts
Your Most Important Relationship Questions Answered
By Maureen Salamon, Special to Lifescript
Published February 06, 2011

Mistake #3: Being needy
You may think the occasional “thinking of you” text is OK, but consider the total amount of emotional messages you’re sending his way.

Blitzing him with calls, emails and other constant communication is another common relationship problem. It can make a man think you need him too much and can’t do anything without his input.

And that gives most men the heebie-jeebies.
Michelle R. Callahan, Ph.D., a New York City-based developmental psychologist and author of Ms. Typed: Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships and Find Dating Success (Three Rivers Press, 2010), calls this type of woman “Miss Anaconda” because “she smothers her partner to death.”

She forgets that both partners need time away from each other, Callahan says.

Smothering can also mean making continuous demands on his time, Newman adds.

“Such requests – like, I need you to have dinner with my friends on Saturday, shop for a gift for my niece, or put up my bookcases – expect too much from a new relationship,” she says.

These requests are particularly unwelcome if your date doesn’t like to be cornered, she says.

“Anything that eats into his free time on a constant basis will feel like too much.”

Dating tip: Limit your texts to one or two a day and try to space out special requests. If his eyes start to dart toward the door, simply back down and change topics.

MY THOUGHTS

have you been an anaconda at some point? maybe a baby anaconda but still an anaconda? read this article over and over if you don't want your one and only to slip (or run) away.