Dating Mistake #8 - BEING A CRITIC IN BED

Dating Mistake #8 - BEING A CRITIC IN BED

from "Top 10 Dating Don’ts"
Your Most Important Relationship Questions Answered
By Maureen Salamon, Special to Lifescript
Published February 06, 2011

Mistake #8: Being a critic in bed
Just like women, guys bare more than their bodies during sex – they also expose their egos.

So, acting annoyed when he doesn’t satisfy you won’t rev up your sex life.

Dating tip: Instead, gently let him know he’s missed the mark, says Stephanie Buehler, Psy.D., a psychologist and sex therapist in Newport Beach, Calif.

But keep this conversation out of the bedroom, where he’ll feel especially vulnerable.

And don’t wait weeks or months to have it.

“By that time, you’ll be resentful and he’ll be distressed,” Buehler says. “And you both will have a rough time fixing your sex life.”

Also, avoid comparing him to old boyfriends during the talk.

“Don’t say how well-endowed your ex-boyfriend was or how long he lasted,” she adds. “Telling him that you’ve had better lovers will only make him feel bad about himself.”

MY THOUGHTS

terrible, terrible subject!